LOOKUP! - keep your eye in, on the whole of what is happening around us
When we believe that the opposite of being controlled is not being controlled, we gravitate towards those who don't question us. In doing so, we unintentionally become the ones who exert control.
As you piece things together, keep your eye in on the whole
When we concentrate on managing individual components, we overlook the whole. However, the whole is composed of nuanced, intricate layers of relational connections that continuously ebb and flow around us. These dynamic patterns will always unravel what has been tightly controlled. By keeping our eye on the whole, we cultivate a sense of steadiness.
By focusing on the whole of our experience, we take responsibility for our feelings and perceptions while being fully present. We strive to harmonize our thoughts, emotions, and actions, remaining aware of how sensations, feelings, and thoughts emerge.
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We view ourselves and others as integrated wholes (body, mind, and emotions) within our environment.
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We take ownership of our choices and experiences.
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We pay close attention to our posture, breathing, and nonverbal cues to foster connection with the whole.
We remain attuned to the patterns of the present flow.
LOOKUP!
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Play Basketball Smarter
Players learn to notice the subtle connections that shape every moment. By seeing the whole picture, they make smarter adjustments in the moments they are needed. Players stay patient and let choices unfold
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Swim to feel effortless flow
We start with the full feeling, not the pieces. The parts naturally line up as swimmers learn to rely on their inner sense of the whole.
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Have conversations to find big ideas
We take a big topic. We write down the roles; these are the dots. We connect the dots with string. The shorter the string the close power distance between the roles. We play with the whole by moving the dots, lengthen or shorten the strings, and see if a big idea unfolds
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Create music to cultivate a sense of calmness
We explore the whole of what is happening to us by making music.
St Albans and surrounding areas - community events
All ability adults - Play Basketball SmarterMon 15 DecBushey
All-ability adults - Swim to keep your eye in on the wholeDate and time is TBDLocation is TBD
Have conversations to keep our eye in on the wholeDate and time is TBDLocation is TBD
All ability adults - Create music to keep our eye in on the wholeDate and time is TBDLocation is TBD
Our
Story
Get to Know Us
In 1994, I was a business analyst working out which parts of human relationships could be programmed into a product called Lotus Notes. Our early conclusion was stark: only interactions that could be quantified were suitable for digital adaptation. This meant focusing on social connections defined by the acceptance or rejection of presented content.
My path eventually led me to work with young people who experienced social connection largely through the lens of rejection. I dedicated myself to helping them see that genuine connection is far more nuanced than simply avoiding rejection—it’s about understanding and navigating the complexities of human interaction.
Years later, I encountered the work of Dr. Iain McGilchrist, which offered a profound lens through which to view the unintended consequences of our early explorations. In 1994, we couldn’t have foreseen the rise of the internet and mobile technology as we know them today. Now, connection—both online and offline—has often been reduced to a rapid-fire series of yes/no decisions: scrolling, swiping, accepting, and rejecting what’s placed before us. This atomises our thoughts. It disconnects us from the whole. We lose awareness of the nuanced, intricate layers of relational connections that constantly flow around us. This lack of awareness of the whole means we fight for control. With AI making this worse by automating what can be controlled, we have created FlowStateTrainer.com
SkillsofWow.org is the governing body for those who coach the skills of Wow.